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I do not know these actresses. This is a work of fiction, therefore did not actually occur. I make no money from this story. No real plot, just some FF action. The scene was one of a few left to shoot for the episode they were working one, which would be great once wrapped since they would have a break in shooting schedule of a couple weeks.
This season had more scene shared just between the two younger Baxter siblings, played by the brunette Molly Ephraim and auburn haired Kaitlyn Dever. In the show they were only a few years apart, but in reality Molly was 10 years older then the freshly legal year old Kaitlyn. The scene they just finished shooting would lead right into lunch, which was good news for the hungry actors, extras and crew. By the end of the scene the brunette had stood from her seat to display to the camera her considerable bust, which drew attention because her C-cup sized tits were displayed in another low neckline t-shirt.
Her other major asset, her beautifully plump ass that an ex-boyfriend once told her to give back to whatever black girl she stole it from, was also drawing attention due to the super tight jeans she was wearing. The girls giggled as they embraced before Molly turned around to go back to the dining room table she began the scene at. As she offered her luscious backside towards Kaitlyn, her co-star took the opportunity to give her booty a healthy swat, much like guys did after making a good play in football.
Molly went to grab it but needed to push her extremely ass backwards to bend at the hips. She was lucky enough to have a small waistline with big boobs and a fat ass…fat in a nice way of course.
She heard one of the grips on set say something to her so Molly turned around to address them while still bent over. In that time she also caught her co-star taking a very long stare at her great ass, with Kaitlyn even doing an involuntary lick and bite of her plump lower lip.
However, once she was caught looking by Molly, Kaitlyn quickly turned her attention elsewhere before walking back to her trailer. The brunette was actually a full-fledged lesbian, as she had stopped fucking men back during college and been with women only, enjoying the soft curves of females over rough fucking of men.
Whenever she went to award shows or red carpets she was always with a male date, but Molly was getting a strong bi-sexual vibe from the freshly turned 18 year old. Of course, Molly was also aware she could have projecting that Kaitlyn digged chicks since it would mean there was a chance the older girl could then bed her younger co-star, who seemed to grow hotter by the day. Lunch passed by quickly enough. Once her large summer salad was gone and the chatting was dying down, Molly excused herself to go freshen up in her own trailer, located conveniently beside her pretty co-star.
However Molly stopped as she turned the corner and approached their space. The pair of teens chatted for a few more seconds then gave each other a hug, which seemed to go on a little longer then normal. Then the pair broke their grip but remained close. The unknown girl smiled before giving Kaitlyn a wink followed by another parting kiss. She turned on the spot and descended the three stairs, helped by the auburn haired beauty giving her a smack on her bottom much like she had done to Molly at the end of their last scene.
By the time the girl had walked 20 feet in the opposite direction of the hiding Molly, Kaitlyn was already back in her trailer with the door closed. Molly knew she had to play it just right with the younger girl. Kaitlyn was highly attractive and assertive like her character on the show, though she was only 18 years old. But if Molly came on too strong then she may scare the girl a decade younger then her off, which was exactly not what she wanted to do.
The beautiful brunette pondered her options the whole day. Essentially the only times she was thinking about how to bed her adorable co-star was when she was shooting scenes for their show. However as soon as the director yelled cut her mind went back to working on her plan, especially so when the girl with auburn hair was shooting with her. But it was because of her filming that a great idea came to her. The scene was unremarkable in a large scale, Molly was just acting like the ditzy, irresponsible and naive girl that she was, but it hit her at that time.
Kaitlyn was a typical 18 year old, which meant that she thought she knew everything, even more so based on the fact that she was popular and successful. After all, despite acting for only 5 years the barely legal teen had several big films on her resume, including J. Though Molly was university educated and wise despite being only 28 years old, she would play up her aloofness and get Kaitlyn to hit on her and ultimate seduce her.
It would then be at this point that Molly would show her true colors and reverse the table on the new lesbian. She waited for the end of the next to wrap up shooting, which happened to be later at night due to some scenes needed filmed at dark. Again, the two ladies had time on screen together which meant that they would be getting back to their trailers at the same time.
Molly hung back just a little later on set before following Kaitlyn to their rooms. The auburn haired girl was joined by her assistant for the walk before she left her at the doorway with a wave to go home for the evening. The older girl hurried inside her own trailer and found the clothes still waiting for her on the bed that she laid out before shooting.
Molly quickly stripped down of her wardrobe she wore for the scene, which was a colorful dress that hugged her tight body, showing off her great curves.
With the dress off, the brunette was rendered naked in her bedroom. Before picking up the dress she had laid out for herself, she caught sight of her nude image in the full length mirror.
She was a stone-cold stoner to put it flatly. Her dark brown hair was worn down, cascading to her breasts with small bangs cut in the front to really amplify her old-fashion pin-up girl look she had going for herself.
Her body was flawless, with large breasts hung saglessly in front of her chest in the prime of their life, with each capped with a perfectly placed pink nipple that was neither too large or too small. She had natural womanly curves but no one would ever confuse her for being fat or even chubby. She had wide hips that helped contain the beautiful rear she was rocking, while her legs were ideal. Strong yet soft looking thighs paired with shapely, slim calves rounded out a body surely that was shaped by the Gods themselves.
She snapped herself out of staring at her reflection and stepped into the beautiful dress she had picked out for tonight. With the garment hanging loosely on her body, she used one hand to hold it in place while the other dialed a number on her cell phone. Though they shared some common interests, they were a decade apart and ran in different social circles because of that. The auburn haired beauty was dressed in typically clothing her character from their hit show wore.
Today that meant a tight fitting pair of jeans that highlighted her lean athletic body and a multi-colored plaid shirt with her long beautiful hair worn down past her perky tits. Standing at the opposite end of the small trailer in the bedroom section was Molly, who was sideways to the arriving actress. The vision that greeted Kaitlyn was the brunette in a knee length dress that was snug up along her meaty thighs and glorious ass. There was a knock at the door at that moment and Molly moved towards it.
Kaitlyn stepped out of her way as they brushed by each other. Of course it was all by design, as was the friend who picked her up.
Molly arrived on set the next day at noon, making small chat with some of the crew she was friendly with before getting to her room. Dressed in tight fitting blue jeans, tee shirt displaying the image of cover art of her favorite comic book and sunglasses, she looked a stunning and simple vision. The pair left the trailer, now with a water bottle in each hand.
Molly was very pleased that her theatrics from the previous evening were a success. Kaitlyn had never asked her to walk in to work together, but the younger girl clearly had her interest peaked.
And Kaitlyn definitely was interested. Along the walk Molly caught the slim girl checking out her tits twice, ass once and staring at her plump lips every time they talked. She was flattered, but more importantly she was confident that she would be sharing her bed with the younger girl in no time. Then we get to the main event and she was hesitant and, well, just not very good.
Of course the whole thing was a lie. After dropping the line about being sexually hungry, Molly flashed the younger actress a brief but telling look. Rather then have the glance reciprocated or rejected by Kaitlyn, she left the comment out there for Kaitlyn to digest while the older girl ran off to talk to someone else.
Molly had just finished her last shot of the day, a scene she shared with her on-screen boyfriend at his apartment. Most of the other actors were already done, but apparently not the object of her affection. Rather then letting her hand go, Molly kept holding it and the pair walked off, swinging their arms in mock excitement. They stop that after a few paces but neither girl let the fingers break contact with the other.
And then it happened. Molly had just enough time to bask in the glory of her short but effective plan before feeling soft lips press against her fuller ones.
It was a lip lock that was confident and bordered on forceful, but Molly assumed the added roughness was to show her that Kaitlyn was decisive unlike her failed date from last night. Molly acted surprised so her kissing was reactive unlike the much more proactive energy that Kaitlyn was providing. Already the slender girl who was a few inches taller then her was bringing her hand to the side of her head before nimble fingers were running through her thick dark hair.
Kaitlyn was a wild beast but Molly loved the effect she had on the younger girl. Molly felt skinny digits gripping the soft flesh of her booty through the thin silk material of the short dress she wore. She had paired it with a thong underneath so there was no extra layer to go through before feeling her bum.
In tandem, the girls moved back through the trailer in search of the bedroom that Kaitlyn had demanded. Their lip locking did not slow down at all despite all the moving, in fact it got more passionate. The moment Kaitlyn opened her mouth, Molly mirrored the manoeuvre and beat the younger girl in getting her tongue into her mouth first.
It started a mini tussle between the wet muscles as they fought for dominance while Molly stepped backwards through her living space. The room was clean except for the odd piece of clothing on the floor or hanging off the dresser. The yelp of surprise was in direct responce to the bed hitting the back of her legs, causing the 28 year old to go toppling to the bed.
Though she could have stopped herself, the athletic looking younger girl fell with her co-star, landing her petite frame on top of the curvy girl. After a brief pause the two re-engaging their kissing, this time with even more vigor. While Kaitlyn straddled her co-stars waist with knees on either side of her hips, Molly hands were busy working on the buttons of the plaid shirt the auburn haired beauty was donning. Molly took the chance to run a hand up along her stomach, which was flat without an ounce of fat, starting at the waistband of her jeans.
They traveled up over her bra-clad perky tits, a growing A-cup that were soon to be a size bigger.
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How many times have we tried to reframe things in such as a way as to build someone up? How many times have we thought about taking this down a level? I am writing this blog a couple of days ahead of the anticipated landfall of Hurricane Florence. At this point the Carolinas and Virginia have, I believe, declared a state of emergency and folks in the potential storm path have been advised to relocate.
Natural disaster like this are really scary and in part due to their unpredictability. It might yet be the case that Hurricane Florence changes course and does not make landfall, is downgraded in intensity or unleashes less destruction that could have been the case. I am a big fan of fantasy. I grew up reading Tolkien and C. Lewis and later read series by Robert Jordan, J.
Martin and several others. Part of the reason I love fantasy is because it forces a reader to imagine worlds that do not exists. When done well, fantasy has us examine our humanity through a different lens. These days I have become a big fan of Brandon Sanderson. Become a Mandt Student Academy. Click to read more..
As I write this blog I am on the road again shout out to Willie Nelson and to all of you that understand that shout-out , but I find myself in a different role. In order to learn a new skill, a a person must repeat that skill for many repetitions. However, not all repetitions are the same. If a person mindlessly slogs through repetition after repetition, they will not develop the skill with the same efficiency as a person who performs repetitions mindfully and with focus.
Last year was a challenging year for my wife as it was her first year teaching in a new school system and at a different grade level. As she returned to work this week to start her 19th year as a teacher, I was on the road facilitating a workshop and called her to see how things were going. She immediately started talking about all the positive changes that were being made over last year and seemed excited about the new school year.
Having written a training department newsletter for 18 years, I would include the important dates each month Direct Support Professionals week is Sept , , holidays, the interesting dates, such as famous birthdays Elvis, January 8 , and also the unusual dates Square Dance Day, November We have appreciation days for almost everything imaginable and a few that you would not even think of!
Now, I always thought it was nice that we took time to remember people,. Like any organization, we operate with systems and process that underpin our approach to what we believe to be good business practices. Occasions sometimes arise that throw a spotlight on those systems and process and we have the opportunity to evaluate how effective and fit for purpose they are. In the story the best friend a young prince makes on a banished planet, is a fox.
Eventually the fox must leave the prince forever, so he offers to tell him the most wonderful secret in the world if the prince meets certain conditions. The little prince does what is expected and then asked to be told the greatest secret.
We discuss empathy and the need for empathy in regards to developing healthy relationships with people throughout our trainings. To develop advanced skills in any subject, a person needs to be well versed in the basics of that subject.
It is often better to be highly skilled in the use of a few tools, than to have minimal skill with a large number of tools. Many people in our society are lonely. I recently read the following in an article about the rates of loneliness in the US. I can usually find a way to connect with people, but occasionally it is extremely difficult. Of course, the toughest people to connect with are the ones where a relationship would be most valuable. I have found that widening my perspective helps me to find common ground with people.
The tool I use most often to accomplish this is reframing. For me, reframing is simply a structure for looking at ourselves, others, and situations from different angles. That excitement extended into my house, and with a year-old transitioning from a child to young adult bedroom it was clear that the trip could not be avoided.
I like the design of much that IKEA offers but find the whole process of being herded through the store, corralled and punished at the check-out never enough open, belts to narrow and no bagging provided and then the final craziness of having to bring your car over to the pick-up area to load your goods,.
Often times I see the worst of me through the actions of my children. It has been that way for many years. The things that frustrate me the most about my three boys are often the behaviors I like least about myself. Many times, when I am angry with them I am really angry at myself for showing them the behavior enough times that they adopted it for themselves.
In all fairness there are also qualities that I love about my children and when I stop and think about it,. We talk a great deal about building healthy relationships, but perhaps we should go a little deeper to find out exactly how we do that. One of the most important things to building relationships with others is to connect with them on a personal level. In this age of technology it is easy to reach out via text or email, but nothing beats sitting down in person with someone to really talk.
While traveling home from my most recent workshop, my plane had a mechanical issue resulting in a long delay. Frequent air travel comes with frequent schedule changes.
No matter what you do, inevitably, delays and cancellations will occur disrupting your plans and interfering with your schedule. At best, these experiences are inconvenient, but in reality, they are often quite frustrating. This different perspective has allowed me to more fully appreciate the experience our students are having each and every day in our schools. I watch my daughter who is in eighth grade struggle with extreme stress and anxiety and she winds up her eighth-grade year.
Over the past few years, as the Mandt System program has evolved and developed, we have often been asked about its application, relevance and fit for specialist sectors of individuals served. Once such section is the Juvenile Justice sector in the US. For a decade or more a small number of committed services have pioneered and championed Mandt as a great option for this sector.
In Mandt we are specialists in Mandt and recognize that no program is going to authentically serve all situation or services challenges unless we partner with experts from those fields and learn and develop from each other to increase opportunities for creating greater safety.
Either way the idea of purpose has been on my mind a lot recently. My take-away from this series has more to do with the power of relationships, which of course is the foundation for our program. The premise of this show is that the main female character made 13 cassette tapes for various people to listen to so they might better understand how the relationship that they had with her,.
System 1, or fast thinking, includes all the processes that occur automatically, emotionally, or by accessing and applying a simple rule. One of the questions that is often asked by new instructors during workshops is how to get the people in their organizations to change to be more consistent with The Mandt System principles.
Considering how resistant people can be to change, this can be difficult. While I am by no means an expert on organizational change, I think that many of the core concepts for supporting change in our organizations are found in the first three chapters of The Mandt System material.
Schools can be really tricky with respect to crisis behaviors because so many students are triggered by non-preferred demands or avoidance of failure. How can we minimize stress in school environments without compromising the necessary learning that needs to take place?
I believe the key is to establish emotionally, psychologically, and physically safe classroom environments. Learning can be risky business so safety is vital.
Here are 5 tips to doing just this:. In my family it is my role to take care of the basic health needs of our motor cars. I have a couple of modern cars which are beyond my skillset for more than basic maintenance and a couple of older cars with which I am happy to tackle most basic and intermediate tasks. The ongoing challenge I face is not being aware of issues until I happen to get into a particular car and see a warning light or hear a strange noise.
Well, I am not brave enough to openly dive into a religious discussion, but I will wade into politics, if only in the shallow end. Recently, I attended my seventh year of going to Washington DC with the National Fragile X Foundation and lobbying for some issues important to my family and others.
I was hooked from the first time I went because it gives me a feeling of empowerment and allows my freedom of speech rights to be fully utilized. It has been an interesting process. People in the helping professions care a lot. Caregivers can get so caught up in caring for others, that they sometimes forget to take care of their own needs.
Those who are in the position of providing care for others must be sure to charge their own battery from time to time. It can be difficult to help others if you, yourself are in need. One of my roles at The Mandt System, in addition to training instructors, is to occasionally provide IT support to instructors who need assistance getting or setting up the materials they need to teach their workshops.
Based on what the person was telling me, I knew exactly what they were doing wrong. Self management is the process by which we select behaviors to regulate those emotions in a healthy and safe manner. This really leaves me no excuse to forget it and each year I have plenty romantic themed prompts to get my own personal celebration in order. This year I had conversations with many of my colleagues about their plans for Valentines celebrations. This I am sure was the convention in many workplaces last week.
On February 9th, I was privileged to be a part of something I had wanted to be a part of for some time. Night to Shine takes place very year in February and is a prom for individuals with special needs. This year, Night to Shine was hosted in churches in 50 states and 16 countries. When my mom was still alive, she would sometimes call me in the mornings around 8: Why are you sleeping so late? Recently, a friend posed an interesting question on social media.
What words of wisdom would you share with a young boy about growing up to be a responsible man? I find his question to be very interesting. The socialization of youth is such an important task for any society.
I saw this image on social media the other day, and as I read through the comments, it appears that identifying a favorite teacher is something that most people do not find difficult. In addition to being able to identify teachers who were my favorites, I also thought about the teachers that were my least favorites.
We use the terms dignity and respect as foundational principles in the Mandt System. But what does it mean to treat someone with dignity? In other words, what does dignity look like in action? I started my investigation of this idea with first defining dignity.
I learned that dignity really means to value the humanity each and every one of us possesses. Recent media has been heavily influenced by efforts at apology. The responses to these received apologies has been mixed.
In the Mandt system we had to offer our own sorry recently following the premature emailing of news of a system upgrade that was not quite ready to go. Recently I had spent several days working on a project which caused me lots of stress. Later, because of a mistake made by my co-worker the days I spent were determined not to be necessary.
My colleague could have easily covered the mistake up and could have gotten by with not acknowledging the mistake. It would have been very possible to for me to never know that my work was made unnecessary.
However, instead he acknowledged the mistake,. Someone brought up pets, which many others in the group agreed with. The attack went on for around thirty minutes, but not a single person intervened.
The police were notified only after the attack had ended, and Kitty had died. Why did no one help? Why do some bystanders not offer help in an emergency? I can remember several holiday gatherings in my own life that were more uncomfortable than they were joyous because of conflicts within our family.
I was asked to complete a blog for an issue of the monthly Stance and Balance. In the Mandt System we drawn content and insight from a range of research, academic and popular cultural references to support our learning and development content. In our Instructor Resource Center we have increasingly found ourselves uploading the work of researcher Dr.
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My cousin and his wife do this quite often and the results are often the highlight of my day Seth and Alison —. Modern life is exhilarating. Technology is amazing and everything seems to move at such a fast pace. We do this at our own peril. It seems wise to slow down, tune in, and pay attention to what our senses are telling us, particularly if we find ourselves in risky situations. There are two important concepts that help us to tune in,. Once you get to the location of the incident, things have settled down, but not before one caregiver has been injuried.
Fortunately, everyone seems to be safe. While riding in the car of the other day with my two grandsons Matt and Jeremiah, I was reminded about how simple relationships can be. Matt is 24 years old with Down syndrome and some Autistic tendencies. Jeremiah was playing a game on his 3DS and decided to show Matt how to play. I recently read an article on things to do before fall and winter arrive. It was full of eminently sensible tips for keeping your gutters clear, making sure your winter wood supply, fuel etc..
It occurred to me that the idea of a seasonal attention for our relationships would not be a bad idea also. Over the years, I have had the privilege to mentor others professionally and personally. I have also been mentored by others.
The last couple weeks I have had the opportunity to be reminded of how important the process of mentoring is to personal and professional development. The development is not only for the person being mentored but also the person doing the mentoring. I have written several blogs over the years about mentoring but usually from the lens of choosing a mentor and being mentored,.
My Godson, Elijah, is totally adorable. His grin warms my heart and his little voice is like music to my ears. I love spending time with him. I love it when he puts his little hand in mine.
Oxytocin, a hormone that is vital for in-group bonding and prosocial behavior, also has the less desirable tendency of making people more xenophobic towards people that a person does not consider to be part of their in-group.
To better support the teachers and students,. My grandson Matt many know has Downs Syndrome. He will call early in the morning, and all I hear is breathing.
I will say hello, Matt. Matt you call me, and all I hear is the breathing. I will just listen. He will again say Matt no go. I will ask him is it time to go to work? In common with many parents I am sure the feelings are bittersweet…. The summer is behind us, but so it the challenge of three kids arguing and generally be a challenge to us and each other.
I recently attended the Global Leadership Summit. It is always wonderful to attend conferences that have amazing speakers who challenge me to not only become a better leader but overall a better person. Like the previous year, I walked away with lots of thoughts about how can I improve in all aspects of my life and what areas did I need to start working on immediately.
One of the areas I was convicted to improve upon was my parenting skills. I recently went to Six Flags Over Georgia with several family members and some friends and all their children. I think all told we had 14 people including nine kids aged thirteen and under. We decided to go to an amusement park on possibly the hottest day of the summer AND it was after one of the kids had just gotten back from a week-long camp. As you can see, exceptional planning on our part! I was recently in an airport waiting in line at the bag check station.
There was a man standing behind me who was quite obviously upset. He muttered a few swear words, and grumbled about how slow the line was moving.
I mentioned that I was not in a hurry, and he could take my place in line if he was running late. With August upon us, teachers everywhere are starting to prepare themselves for a new school year. My wife is one of them and will be working in new school system this year. Although this will be her 18th year teaching, the beginning a of new school year is always stressful and doing it in a new place with unfamiliar people will compound the stress.
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Trouble is, without my really being aware my youngest will happily spend 3 or more hours watching you tube videos with his head phones on and not engaging with me or his siblings, or the summer days passing by outside.
The awareness was selective on my part as it leaves me free to work. As July is Fragile X awareness month I thought I would once again shine a light on the most common inherited cause of intellectual disabilities and autism. Danger can take many forms, and situational awareness is one of the key elements in maintaining safety.
The Mandt System provides the RADAR model as a tool that helps people to develop situational awareness, and to make good decisions in situations that can sometimes be risky. A year or two ago I was teaching a workshop and one of the participants shared a story about an individual who had gone through an addiction treatment program.
This person had participated in the program 15 to 20 times over multiple years, and many staff at the facility had given up any hope that the person would ever overcome their addiction. The last six months have seen lots of milestones reached in my family.
And a few tears. In January, my grandson, Blake, got married and moved to Colorado Springs. In May, my only granddaughter graduated from high school. And the first of June, my oldest grandson,. Spend your days sleeping in, doing what you want, living the easy life. My daughter works in the retirement and estate planning field, she told me this week that some individuals came in to see her.
He needed to find something else to do besides be under her feet all day. The last few days this statement has been floating around in my head. A couple of students in my life have been counting down the number of days left since January. I loved summer when I was a teenager too. I liked the slower pace; I liked being able to stay up later and sleep later; I liked wearing shorts and flip-flops; and, I liked all the creative ways my friends and I found to make up for the fact we had no access to a swimming pool imagine lawn chairs positioned creatively under the sprinkler.
Training is one of the few professions that a person gets multiple written evaluations of their performance on a weekly basis. Most organizations solicit feedback from course participants after every training event that is held.
What does all this information mean, and how do we best utilize it? A few weeks ago, one of the participants in a workshop had traveled there on his new motorcycle.
Let me just say that it was a sweet bike! He parked it up near the door under the awning of the hotel to protect it. A colleague recently sent me an email letting me know that they were not going to be able to complete one of their required job duties. I was sitting in an airport waiting on a delayed plane so not in the best of existing mood when I fired off my response. My colleague came straight back to me and sought to clarify that their message was asking not telling….
I had not got that from the words used,. As the parent of an eleven, fourteen and seventeen year old, it is not uncommon to find myself mediating over arguments, bickering and fights. UN peacekeepers could learn a lot from parents of teenagers! Tara had been working with a young man, TG, in a residential setting for quite some time. They had developed a positive relationship. TG was doing so well that his team began to talk with TG about returning him to his family home.
On this particular day, Tara was in a room alone with the young man when he suddenly backed her up against a wall and held a knife at her throat. Tara was very frightened but used her relationship with him and her verbal skills to engage him,. Many years ago, I was able to drive my grandparents to North Dakota to visit family — my aunt and uncle and three cousins.
It was Easter weekend and there are a few things that stand out for me. I spend a lot of time in the great outdoors with my kids. Nature is a powerful teacher, and can provide wonderful opportunities for developing relationships.
We frequently go for long walks at a nature preserve that is not far from my home. Before we embark upon the journey, I show both my daughters the route that we will take on the map posted at the entrance to the preserve. I came across this picture online recently and it caught my interest. It was taken during the Boston Marathon. Katherine Switzer, the first woman to register and run in the marathon, made world headlines after a race official tried to physically remove her from the race because she was a woman.
In this picture, her coach on her right is trying to keep the official away from her to ensure she could continue running. For example, in , my youngest daughter was involved in a severe car accident.
She lost a substantial amount of long term memory and basically all short-term memory. A colleague and I were chatting this week about the different strategies we have developed to create acceptable family practice around use of electronics by ourselves and our children.
Between us, he and I have 6 kids aged 6 to 24, boys and girls and all attached in varying degrees to their electronics. We have a broad discussion about parental controls, live gaming consoles, access to pornography, violence in first person shooter games,.
I had the opportunity to train the material at the Harris County Juvenile Probation Department recently and wanted to share what for me was a truly inspiring event. My sincere thanks to Nicole Collier and Moe Hobson for sharing this story. Harris Co Juvenile Probation serves a large population of youth ranging in ages from 10 to The population includes youth with a history of violent offenses. Their data indicates that many of the youth have mental health issues,.
Even though they were unsuccessful in the surprise element it was still a really fun weekend spent with some of the best people I know. Every time I have the opportunity to get together with these ladies I am reminded of just how lucky I am to have these life-long friendships. Most people are familiar with the comedian and actor Jim Carrey. He has done several interviews over the years talking about growing up with a mother who suffered from depression and how he used to act funny to make her laugh.
I have often used a story he tells about his experience in middle school when teaching instructor workshops. He says that to help curb his disruptive behavior that some of his teachers gave him a few minutes at the end of class to do a comedy routine. My grandson married the girl of his dreams on January 7, With the current furor over fake news, reports of electoral interference and leaking of real or false intelligence it can be hard to discern what is authentic.
It used to be easy, false news was The Onion or similar and anything coming out of former Soviet Union was communist propaganda. In the Mandt System our advice is going to be look into your relationships.
Over 40, people in the U. In Building Healthy Communication, The Mandt System teaches how we use our senses to understand and react to the world around us.
The purpose of the information is to inform instructors that when there are neurological issues that cause our senses to work differently, individuals may have challenges correctly interpreting and responding to what is occurring in the environment. Emphasis is placed on the olfactory system sense of smell and how smells can have even more of an impact on us than any of our other senses.
My brother in law has Cystic Fibrosis. As the result of deteriorating lung capacity, he received a lung transplant about 2 weeks ago. The process of recovery and his body learning to use his new lungs is not easy or quick. His wife posted the following recently on her Facebook page, and I asked her if I could share it.
Clinically, he did amazing. He sat in a chair for most of the day and was on what is called a trach mask which has no vent support,. Family has always been important to me. Recently, we added a new granddaughter to the family. Blake Paterson married Sarah Ridings at Cocoa Beach Florida on , of course Matt and Miah were in attendance and was assigned to pass out programs and greet the guest. One of my favorite moments was at the rehearsal dinner, various people were standing sharing memories about the couple and offering congratulations.
Matt stood up and walked up to the head table,. One has to wonder what would prompt such behavior being seen as something to publically broadcast? Lets face it, lack of understanding, human empathy and stigma are not new issues facing folks such as this young man but the recording and broadcasting of such abuse is surely a new phenomenon? It seems an appropriate story to share as we celebrate the holidays and determine how individuals in our care can participate.
Donald turned 21 in Aug His guardian, a kind and wonderful woman was opposed to him celebrating his 21st birthday by drinking alcohol. Okay, not always, but more than once anyway. I was having dinner last week with a workshop participant and his wife. The temptation in these situations is often to downplay this to the person, but there is truth in that statement. The holiday season is here!! Our family enjoys lots of time together celebrating the joys of the season. We are truly thankful for all the blessings we share.
This year is even more special as my two oldest grandsons prepare to marry, family is expanding and the future looks bright. My daughter told me the other day that Miah, the youngest grandson has decided that with all the talk of weddings that he is ready to get married also;. At this time of year it seems that everyone is publishing their guide to the holidays.
So far however I have not seen anything on maintaining your relationships over the holiday season, so the goal of this blog is to try and address this gap. In Chapter One, Building Healthy Relationships, there is a specific slide about appropriate boundaries.
Typically, this discussion focuses on caregivers and the individuals in their care, however, Michael Benoit, LPN had a different take on this which is worth sharing! Yet, this is also a pertinent question that may come up between team members. Like many of you, I woke on Tuesday, November 8, with a sense of somber responsibility. Each task that I completed was weighted with the gravity of a decision that I was loathe to make. There were many things to consider — I needed to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of my choices and come to a final decision.
One of the things that I have appreciated most about The Mandt System since I became an instructor seventeen years ago and faculty member two and a half years ago is how applicable the principles are to my everyday life. I often tell people that learning these skills has helped me maintain a healthy, loving relationship with my wife over the 12 years that we have been married. I believe one of the most important principles we teach is understanding the need to be a safe person for the people around you.
This is a documentary about the life of Owen Susskind, a young autistic man whose language and social skills began to deteriorate when he was about 3 years old.
His language became garbled and the boy who jabbered and laughed with his family went away. We have all heard about the best-laid plans, and the fact they never work out as expected. Therefore, we should just plan that our plans are going to require adjustments. This is especially true when working with people. Everything from the weather, full moons, illness and an emergency call in; change your plan for the day.
The Mandt System teaches the crisis cycle and the importance of building the foundation of trust before a crisis,. The concern, tension and anxiety was palpable and immediately a queue formed at the gate desk to ask questions. When Tom lost his job, he was justifiably concerned about how this would impact his family, his wife and child.
Tom was obviously under considerable stress. Has anyone else ever opened their mouth and heard their mother coming out?
When the heck did THAT happen? I mean, I distinctly remember swearing perhaps even with my hand on a Bible that I would never, ever ever, ever, ever say the things or do the things that my mother did.
An article recently appeared in my new feed about a refugee center in Germany where children uprooted by war in Syria, Iraq, and Afghanistan are living. I heard of family and friends killed in bombings, of being tortured by militants and of boats capsizing in pitch-dark seas. Last weekend, a year-old young man lost his life in a car accident. As a star wide receiver on the high school football team, his coach describes him as a very competitive, tough, hard working student both on and off the field.
In the Mandt system we talk about seeing mistakes as simply mistakes and this is a principle strand in our approach not just to building healthy communication but also healthy conflict resolution. So what about when the mistake is deliberate or intended to obfuscate…. Is our job to forgive? This blog is offered by a certified instructor in an attempt to share information on the value of documentation. In The Mandt System, the need for good and exact documentation is repeatedly stressed.
This blog, proudly offered by staff at a school in Minnesota clearly indicates the importance of documentation. Since starting Mandt our school has become very good about following procedures and documentation. A parent came up to me and asked me if her child had been restrained,. My niece actually two of them recently graduated from high school. Those of you who have been through a high school graduation probably remember the stress of this life event.
Those of you who have yet to experience it…get ready! I have seen quite a few articles and videos over the last year or so talking about the connection between school attendance and poverty. This week I read an article on Upworthy link below about Whirlpool donating washers and dryers to schools and how it has made a significant impact on kids showing up. The article describes situations where kids were not coming to school simply because they did not have clean clothes to wear.
I know better than to weed his flower bed, and he knows better than to weed ours. We have a friendship going,. In the Olympic news this past week there has been a focus on the US team swimmers and their alleged experience of robbery in Rio. While the details are still emerging much has been reported about the inconsistency of their stories and accounts of what happened, and to whom.
Without wanting to make any judgment on veracity of their respective statements it is interesting as a phenomenon we experience when addressing crisis situations and debriefing in the Mandt System training events.
In teaching Building Healthy Relationships, The Mandt System teaches, when there is trust in a relationship, it is easier to see a mistake as simply a mistake. I had an opportunity to experience that recently. My car needed repair. The best time to address the need is when I am on the road, not using my vehicle. My seventieth 70th cousin is due to be born in August. The other unusual thing is that we all, mostly, get along really well and want to spend time together. We are all traveling to Webster, SD in a few weeks to stay in some cabins at a fishing lake.
When I first put out the details about when and where,. While social media provides us with the ability to stay connected and aware of the events happening in the lives of friends and family, it also bombards us with stories, images, and videos of violent events happening to people all over the world.
I was reading an article this week that referenced some research that was released in early about the effects of viewing violent images and video on social media. So this was a week of apologies on the political landscape. Our feelings are our own and generally not subject to public scrutiny unless position or politics are our field. This blog is offered by Rachael Martin, one of the awesome instructors I met recently. Happy Belated Fathers Day. I know many may not know ,there may be many who would prefer not to know this.
We know according to the ACE study quoted in The Mandt System, one third of people in the study stated no abuse during the formative years. Today, I would like to think my dad for all the help he gave me growing up. He is the reason I preform my job,. What really caught my attention was the cafeteria worker who,. First was the shooting death of Voice alum Christina Grimmie; the mass shooting at Orlando nightclub Pulse; and, the alligator attack at a Walt Disney World Resort that left a 2-year old boy dead.
Following a medical diagnosis last summer I was treated and then placed on a variety of painkillers to manage my symptoms during my recovery phase. I ended up taking at least 2 types of strong opiates multiple times during the day and continued to do so until recently when I choose to reduce my usage, as I was questioning the effectiveness, in my particular situation.
When individuals live in a setting where their sense of Liberty has been restricted their behavior will demonstrate that sense of frustration and often resistance. But this particular contact lens has zigged when I was expecting a zag and has really made me question whether or not it is possible to teach an old dog me new tricks like how to put in the stupid contact lens.
The reality is that there are sometimes a lot of similarities between our organizations and the world in Game of Thrones. My daughter just returned from her 5th trip to Guatemala where she served as cook for a team of high school students who were spending their Spring Break serving others. The group of 65 spent the week at a home for orphaned, abused, neglected or abandoned children. Currently, there are over children who live at the home. Well what an interesting week in the political arena of the Republican nomination in the US.
One candidate left out of a field of 17 with further states yet to vote. So does this mean there is a single choice only? It might seem so, but of course it is never as simple as that. Examples shared include security staff in jails and prisons, who treat the inmates with respect have sometimes been protected during riots by individuals for whom they were responsible. A certified Mandt Instructor AA shared an experience that clearly exemplifies this concept. After the recent New York primary election results it has been interesting to read, and listen to the pundits and journalists discussing how both the leading candidates have to now change, or modify their image in order to appeal to the wider base of their respective parties.
What a fascinating notion this is. The appeal that they have gained to date, has to now we altered, and or diluted so as to reach a target demographic,. Our acquaintances are those folks that we serve and support. In many cases the acquaintanceship has grown over the years to become more of a Partner, Advocate, or Champion.
These are all good words that capture the relationship we want to have with the people we serve and support. The last couple days I have been spending time over in England with a friend and co-worker. I really enjoy these times as we sit and talk for long periods, often traveling from one area of the country to the other.
In our recent talks he has been sharing about a book he is finding to be very good on empathy. Yesterday, we had a discussion about the topic with over a dozen other professionals in our field discussing what it really was,.
It was 2 years ago this month that I left the company where I had been working for 21 years and joined The Mandt System faculty. As I think back on that decision, I can honestly say that I have no regrets. With all the hassles that come with air travel and life on the road, I often think of how fortunate I am to get to do the work I do with the people I get to do it with.
All parents want their children to grow up to be happy independent adults, that contribute to society in a meaningful way. That is what I desire for my girls and what they both want for their children. In the Mandt System we, as employees try as far as possible to act and behave in ways that mirror and are consistent with what we teach in the program. In particular in the areas of building healthy relationships, communication and conflict resolution.
Over recent weeks we, as a company have been dealing with a set of shifting responsibilities and as with any change process event the associated anxieties and concerns that individuals understandably have.
Sometimes as service providers or caregivers we become so focused on the behaviors that are demonstrated by someone in our care that we fail to be empathetic and support the emotional and psychological pain the person is enduring. Keep in mind that the person is not simply concerned about themselves but is also in agony because what is occurring internally is also impacting their interactions with their loved ones.
In this blog, Danyelle eloquently shares what she is experiencing internally and how she copes. When I landed in Winnipeg, I knew it would be an interesting week, because I could not see the terminal due to the blowing snow. The roads from Winnipeg west were closed that night, and did not reopen until 7am on Monday. Needless to say, we were all late for the first day of the workshop! I believe questioning is an important skill to teach people for their own growth and development.
Questioning is an early part of human development. My five-year-old son has questioned since the day he could talk. He is a strong willed and independent child who needs to organize the world around him. Many years ago when I was a manager, I remember a team building activity that my administrator organized for the managers on our campus.
We spent a day canoeing down a section of the Shenandoah River near our facility. Most of the trip was relatively smooth flowing, but there were spots where the river became shallow and quick moving. There were multiple times that some of the canoes flipped, and we had to help each other get them upright and bailed out.
Recently, President Obama grew emotional when making a passionate plea for gun control; many people believe it was fake. I really believe he is sorrowful for the children murdered in the Sandy Hook tragedy, as are most people. In my personal opinion, the thing that President Obama and others are failing to see is that the true issue is not guns or stricter gun laws, but that people no longer have any personal responsibility for their actions.
So much of the recent news, Presidential nomination campaigns, Flint water contamination, Oscars award controvosies etc.. Arguably there end up no winners in a situation like this and many casualties are created along the way. I see the impact of positions taken on social media or tweets that end up dividing friends and family members who have no direct connection or involvement in the original issue but an opinion or side that they feel compelled to take.
The Mandt System, Inc. The message reinforces the importance of human connections and relationships which is emphasized in the RCT curriculum.
How do you reach a child whose behavior which includes a total absence of behavior , seems unrelated to external cues? Not really any other sports, but I love college football.
I was in Brownsburg, Indiana this week teaching a one-day workshop on supporting people with complex behaviors at ALPHA, a specialized school for students with significant behavioral disorders.
As I write this it is the last day of Christmas has come and gone and the world is preparing for a celebration of the New Year. Like many I reflect back on the past as I look forward to what a whole new year has in store for me. Probably like you this year was filled with ups and downs. I had to deal with the death of people I knew, watched as friends struggled with health issues,. Through this experience he is able to see the positive effects he has had on the people in his life.
Which started me thinking about individuals who work in the Human Service field. Given the huge range and diversity of faith and practices in ALL religions whether Islamic or Judeo-Christian in origin, this represents a minefield of issues to navigate, legal as well as ethical. When my son was born, I used to joke that my wife would make him wear protective gear someday to go to the refrigerator.
She is quite the worrier. With that, she puts a lot of thought into things that might happen. Often, the best defense against something that might happen would be not to put yourself in the situation it might happen. Perhaps, but at what expense? I had fun with it,. In our train the trainer workshops, Chapter 4 focuses on trauma and a good deal of the chapter discusses a study that was conducted in cooperation between the Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta, GA and Kaiser Permanente an insurance provider.
The study originated in an effort to assist patients with weight loss since obesity and weight related medical problems constitute a significant financial drain for insurance companies. However, it was quickly identified that many patients were dropping out of the program despite success in the weight loss program. I love to read, and have the good fortune to have a job where I get paid to sit in airports, airplanes and restaurants where reading helps to pass the time.
Today I have an iPad with a Kindle app, and I get to download books for free from the library,. Recently, while doing a training, the subject came up around age appropriateness. The organization I was doing Autism training for said they have been having lots of discussions around age appropriateness, especially with their regulatory body. I thought this week I would share my views on the subject. My views are not meant to offend but rather simply represent the opinions I have formed in just under 30 years of working with individuals in care,.
I was reading an article this afternoon about the increased level of violence in the city of Chicago and how it is affecting many of the school children there. Earlier this week, a 9 year-old was shot multiple times and killed in what police say seems to have been an intentional act.
Representatives for Chicago school teachers were pointing out the lack of crisis counselors that the city has on staff to support children who have experienced violent events. I travel a lot. Surprisingly, all those miles were logged in the last 30 years.
Those of you that have been in workshops that I facilitate are likely aware of my unique family. I was honored to be a surrogate mother for my best friends and I had twins Tanner and Kennedy who will be fourteen soon how the heck they got that old overnight is beyond me.
Tanner and KJ also have an older sister named Zoe. Often in our classes, instructors comment that it must be great to be a TMS faculty member. It certainly is, but not necessarily for the reasons they assume.
Travel can be fun, but is often challenging, airports are miserable, weather is unpredictable. I planned, during July this year to repaint a large Bay Shaped window on my home in prep for the winter. Having set up the ladders and gantry I spent a couple of days sanding and filling ahead of the painting phase. When I began to apply the paint I kept finding myself getting really dizzy and had difficulty in focusing my vision, despite the stable platform to work from. In the Bureau of Labor Statistics published data on the incidence of injury and death in American workplaces.
In December , BLS updated the data, and if you are interested in looking at the full report, it is available online. This week while driving to a training event I was listening to the radio personalities discuss a study recently published on honesty. Apparently, the most honest people are children around the age of seven and adults over the age of sixty-five. The most dishonest people were teenagers. The study stated on average a person is dishonest twice a day.
Most of the incidents of dishonesty were around not wanting to admit a wrong, which they themselves had committed. Some of you may have seen the monologue given by Miss Colorado in the talent portion of the recent Miss America Pageant.
What stuck out to me the most about what she said was how she described the quality of relationship that she and her patient had developed. The foundation of this relationship was built upon her treating him first and foremost as a person instead of just treating his condition. In , 3, people were killed in motor vehicle crashes involving distracted drivers which includes texting and using a phone, as well as eating, adjusting the radio, and other activities , according to the US Department of Transportation.
My three went back this past week and over dinner at the end of the first day they all debriefed on their experiences. My kids are in High, Middle and Elementary school respectively so my partner and I got to enjoy the full spectrum of the local system. My eldest is a junior in high school and she was all about the new freshman students looking about 5 years old.
As a Social Worker new to the State Hospital, my goal was to get to know the individuals I serve so I can best support and help them in their recovery. The time I invested in this effort brought me the opportunity to help a particular individual, JD, overcome disappointing news without becoming angry or aggressive.
I witnessed this JD become aggressive after being told that his category and privileges were being decreased due to his behaviors. For many years The Mandt System has referenced a study done by Albert Bandura which states that 17 out of every 20 interactions are negative. Glenn Lathum repeated the study in and found nearly identical results with 16 of 20 interactions being negative.
It also makes me think of so many opportunities that we are presented with each day that are not capitalized upon. This is an autobiography, and tells the story of a boy whose brain, for some unknown reason, began to unravel. Over a period of 2 years, Martin went from being an active, normal 10 year old to a point where he became totally unresponsive to outside stimuli.
More and more people are working from home, doing on-line shopping delivered straight to their front door, avoiding the theatres and streaming their movies. Doctors are even able to do check ups via new and improving technology. People pass on the big crowds of sporting events to stay home and watch the game on the television because of the better view and they have the comforts of home.
Consistency is extremely important for individuals with special needs. I know for my grandsons changes in routine can really throw them for a loop.
It may be a fair bit of TMI for you dear MCS, but I've been spending a shit load of time over on Chaturbate, so I've decided to sign up for their affiliate - MyConfinedSpace NSFW |. The world is a very busy place. If you don’t believe me, pay attention to how people respond when you ask them how they are doing. “I’m busy” or “fine but busy” tends to be the regular response. Based on Banjo Paterson's poem "Man From Snowy River, " this series takes place in a small town set in the mountains near Melbourne during the late 19th century. It tells the story of Matt McGregor, one of the richest and most influential man in town and a widower father of three children.