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I sat and watched it, and promptly felt sorry for myself. I had tears running down my face, and felt I truly understood what the characters were going through. Part of the problem of discovering that your spouse is a crossdresser is that you may automatically assume two things:. You believe that they are gay. I know gay men that come across as very masculine so much so it is hard to know that they are gay until they say so , and others who appear to act more feminine.
You believe that they want to be the other sex. This assumption is also unlikely to be true. It would be like saying that just because a woman wears pant suits that she might want to be a man. Yes, it is possible that your crossdresser partner wants to be the opposite sex, but more than likely he just likes feminine clothing. On the first issue, we got the gay question out of the way in the beginning. Based upon my relationship and history with him, I have no reason to distrust him on this.
I am in a solid marriage with someone who is my partner. If he eventually becomes she, then I hope it will be okay. I hope I will be able to see past the vagina and boobs and see the person who is and has been my best friend. Later I saw her do an interview with her husband on a talk show where he admitted that he wanted to live full time as a woman. This may be unfortunate for her and I do not know how she feels about this now , but I want to point out that her situation is unique, and that sex change operations do happen, but they are rare.
Your husband or boyfriend may only like to dress up on occasion and that will be enough for him. He may dress up more frequently, but it is still enough. Your man very likely wants to stay a man. I still think about that movie sometimes.
It was a heart-wrenching film to watch, but it is just a film. But make sure you do sit down with him and discuss these things — discuss the regularly and encourage him to embrace his feminine side and communicate with you! Talk about how you feel, and try and be honest about where your feelings are coming from — and listen to him too, try to put yourself in his shoes.
Hopefully he will do the same. Encourage your husband to see a therapist who specializes in transgender issues and think about it for yourself as well if possible! You will have a lot of time to give your input, have your feelings be heard, evaluate your own feelings about it, get to understand your husband better, and each of you decide what your future will be. And it might end up being positive for your relationship as well. The single most important things you can do to answer this question is to remain calm, and communicate with him listen to him.
Check out our resources page for some great places to start. There are many people who live with partners who crossdress, or who even consider themselves transgender in the wrong body who have healthy, happy relationships. For the first couple of years of our relationship he was incredible, I always felt so lucky to have him and like I had something no one else could touch. This may also have to do with the fact that he is bipolar.
But in any case it got bad enough that a couple of weeks ago we broke up. He recently found out that a friend he had online who was also a crossdresser, who had a wife and child, decided to transition into a woman and this has made him very unsure about his own future. In my case and I think for a lot of transgender individuals when you keep those thoughts inside for literally your whole life from the time you are a child in many cases I think it makes it seem like the only solution is a full transition to the opposite sex.
He may indeed need to transition to feel complete. However, I know in my case that taking it slow has helped me to take an honest look at my gender identity apart from the lifetime of wishing I had been born a girl.
This can be a HUGE help in figuring out if a full transition is what he really wants. There are a lot of things to consider. She would support me if I came to feel transitioning was my only option and would help me through that, and she supports me if I decided not to.
I really wish you and him the best in figuring out what you each want individually, and whether or not that means you should be together or not. In any case, working through this takes a deep level of honesty with yourself too , strength to make tough choices , and patience. Thanks for your comment, that really helped. He recently told his best friend about his gender identity and that was a very big deal. This has been a difficult issue for me and I really appreciate you taking time out to help me understand it better.
But some individuals actually try and live outwardly how they feel inwardly — and this is what I think of when I think of people who live in the third gender. Or a large man who chooses to wear a tasteful and well-fitting skirt and carry a purse. Wikipedia has an interesting overview of the third gender here: Well where to start. My husband of 20 years sprung on me today that he wants to start taking hormones. That he will grow breasts, his voice will change and he will have his shriveled penis removed.
I am so at a loss. I thought it a bit different—but I loved him. I asked him at that time to be honest with me and tell me if there were more to it.
He said there was not. He has not taken any of my feelings into account and quite frankly has made it clear that he does not want to hear about my feelings. I do not wish to live as a lesbian for several reasons—-I have wants and needs and they will not be met and my job is such that they get wind of this—they will be looking for any way possible to get rid of me. He has had several affairs—he says only mentally—but I am not so sure. Apparently after the last one a couple of months ago—he decided that he wanted to start taking hormones for whatever reason.
Guess he thinks that will help keep him from cheating. Any thought or ideas. I am truly at a loss. First of all — welcome to the club. I think all of us partners, spouses and families are immersed in a world we know little about.
That said, it is most certainly not easy to hear the news that he wants to be she — even part of the time. It sounds like you love your husband and want to figure out how to fix what is going on. You may have only found out today about it, but if he is transgender he has known about it his entire life. If you want to maintain this marriage, you will both need to work hard to figure out how to support each other and make this a process that includes you both.
It is your business AND his business. Bottom line — please see someone. Believe me — you should not try to handle this on your own, especially if you feel you are not being heard by your spouse and if you are concerned with work.
It sounds like there are a lot of underlying issues here that need to be worked through — cheating, lying, disrespect — these may be long standing issues that are only being exacerbated by him coming out to you.
Many spouses and families have gone before us and have survived just fine. You WILL be okay. While some men want to go all the way with SRS, most do not.
It is not the actual sexual being so much. Most men just enjoy the comfort of the softer clothing. I do not want to be a woman. It is hard to explain but I like my dual nature. I figure GOD had a reason for doing this. There can be no other explanation. I have adapted this to reflect my dual nature. I wear my skirts with my male polo tops. Along with my shoes and crew socks.
The best description is when I wear my brushed denim A-line skirt, I have a choice on tops light blue, white, or even pink yes they make mens pink polo shirts. So it is a combination of masculinity and femininity. People who have seen me accept this more readily then if I would be wearing a flouncy skirt or a dress.
My girlfriend accepts it and my family. So there is no need for the SRS, at least in my eyes. A transgendered person feels as though they were born the wrong sex and have a desire to fix that problem whether they actually go through with it or not.
A cross dresser enjoys wearing clothes of the other sex but has does not want to become the other sex. As a very small child 2nd grade is the earliest I remember I wanted to be a girl. I really wanted to be a girl, not just dress like one. Cross dressing and transexualism are two completely different things. I could be wrong in these ideas, I am learning along the way. So surely with this said someone who feels they are in between both genders and are happy with it fits very nicely in the Transgender identity.
Man love skirts but are too afrait to reveal. If encouraged, they would just pretend to go along. In that case, fitst of all, it please him and fair to him as girls can always wear pant at will.
That would be strange. A person ten years older or so is way more mature and can handle a serious relationship; young boys are not built for this because they have not fully matured. Dating a younger guy has been all the rage for quite some time. Nonetheless, as women get older, many seem to be tempted to bite into the proverbial younger man pie. Here are some pros and cons to consider before you jump into cougarvile:. A lot of times when you are dating, you are dating the guy and all of his baggage, i.
Guys tend to mature more slowly than women and at an older age. If you catch a guy during his formative years, you can influence the man he will become. This is great if you wind up marrying him and sometimes disappointing if you mold him into an amazing guy and some other girl winds up with him!
Since you are the older and wiser one, he is going to respect you all the more. The fact is, because you have more life experiences than he has, he is going to trust your opinions and suggestions. He knows that you know something about what you are talking about.
Often times in a relationship, the two partners take on different roles, like good cop, bad cop, or responsible one and irresponsible one. If you are older, he might expect for you to be the grown-up, as in be the one who cleans up, makes sure not to drink too much, always makes the reservations, etc. For example, if you were born in , a guy who was born in is likely to miss any references you make to a Walkman, M.
When you are dating someone younger, a lot of times, his friends could get on your nerves because they seem like children to you. Perhaps your guy is more mature, but what about his friends?
You will need to figure out a way to tolerate them if you are into him. A risk you always take dating a younger guy is whether he is ready to commit. Just be prepared for this and make sure you give him ample time to catch up to you in readiness.
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You, on the other hand, sound immature and judgmental about both gender relations and age, and so it probably won't work out, unless your prospective girlfriend is willing to be considered milfy or a cougar, but she probably won't.
A five year age difference is of no consequence if the two people involved are at the same stage of maturity. This does not seem to be the case here. She needs to be dating someone more in her maturity bracket. You need to mature some more. I would never ever date a woman and not be proud of her, and hide her from my friends, it wouldnt be fair. I haven't even asked her out yet but it seems like she wants me to.
If I was in a relationship with her then I'd most certainly be happy with what she was posted by curious-mind at 2: Um, yes, it's fine.
My 31 year old girlfriend says no, it is not ok. Like most things, it's okay with some people and not okay with others. If you want to date this woman, pursue that goal. The reason I asked this question about me being "okay" with dating an older woman, was reading a okcupid research article saying how most men compete for younger women, and there were guys in the comment section saying things like "Yeah if you can't get a younger woman its because you got priced out and you suck" I tried to not let it bother me but it did.
That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men. So far so good. He's not concerned about the difference at all. If you two really gel as a couple then people won't see a 5 year difference in your ages. Yeah, I think you're probably too immature for this relationship, dude. Okay wait, you are making life decisions based on the internets comments section of a dating site article?
Cut this shit out. Anyway, in my early-mid 30s I dated a guy very seriously for several years who was about four years younger. The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. Here's where it could potentially become an issue - if she wants to have children, she is facing a much steeper timeline than you are right now in life. Where two twentysomethings can wait and see where things go, maybe get married, maybe think about kids when it feels right - a couple in their 30's do have to face the reality that female fertility starts declining after So if you don't think you want kids in the next 10 years, and she does -- the relationship can't work in the long run.
It sounds from your question and followups that you're focusing on a lot of superficial externals about how it might affect you rather than the heart of the matter - what is she looking for in you? Gwyneth Paltrow is five years older than Chris Martin. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I know if I were in her year-old shoes I would want to know if I was seeing someone who used the word "cougar" seriously in any non-feline context, let alone applied to how others might view our relationship, has no problem with a double standard, i.
If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her. She might chose to make this a non-issue for you. I think it's just fine if a 26 year old man is dating a 31 year old woman. But, if we're talking about a 26 year old guy , I'm not so sure. Just noticed that 15 comments have been posted since I started writing. I'm betting that I'm not the only one who is giving you grief about this question. Who do you want to date? Her or other men? It's a fine age gap for anyone. Best of luck -- you're gonna need it.
I tried to not let it bother me but it did. OK, I'm here to tell you: You know the saying, "Haters gonna hate"? You, sincere internet stranger who is making a valiant effort to figure this out, are not a statistic.
You may plug into some venn diagrams every once in a while, but the value judgements you make for your own time in life need not be unduly influenced by lying numbers or hype and spin or anything other than your own notion of where the ship you and only you are steering is headed.
It is weird in the sense that it's not typical and it is something some people might look down on you for. Does that make it bad or a bad idea? I don't think so, but that's your decision to make.
What people might think of you as a couple is just one of many factors that go into deciding whether to pursue a specific relationship. It's not wrong to consider it, either, but talking about it in this particular way reinforces a lot of gross sexist norms so I suggest not bringing it up like this around other people or around this woman.
Why do you care what's "normal"? Why do you care what other people think about your prospective relationship, or what they might think about you on the basis of who you date? While it's natural to wonder about the various consequences of a difference in age, I think your would-be sweetheart might be a bit taken aback to learn that you had to ask the Internet whether dating her would be "OK.
Then of course there's the unnecessary stereotype that her being over 30 for five minutes means she is now turning at least some of her attention to baby-planning. They haven't even gone on a date. I don't think kids need to be a factor in the dating process quite yet. I'm 26 years old and I've dated a number of women in their late 30s in the last few years.
It's never been any kind of issue. On the other hand, at the tender age of 26 I think of myself as a grown man and I wouldn't lower myself to taking advice from a bunch of bros in the comment section of a dating website so maybe our experiences are very different.
For what it's worth - not much, by the way - some women my own age have told me that the fact that I was dating a 40 year old raised their opinion if me. But you should not be using the identity of the person you date as a status symbol because it's repulsive. Someone 5 years older than you is not old enough to be your mother, so "MILF" seems quite a bit off.
My sister-in-law and my ex-sister-in-law are both five or six years older than my brother, and I don't think either relationship has had, or had, any issues relating to their age difference. I don't know what to say about your apparent internalized belief that men "should be" older than their female partners or they'll lose status, except a it's certainly a widespread cultural meme in lots of places, and b in my experience, cultural memes like that are usually obstacles to creating relationships that work for you, not for random TV gossip shows or shock jocks or whoever.
Since you are asking, and given the words you chose, she is too old for you. Older women tend to respect themselves more and have higher standards. In that sense dating an older woman reflects well on you.
Older women, because of their confidence and experience, also make better lovers. I would really encourage you to disabuse yourself of the subconscious misogyny you've indicated in your post and follow-ups so that you can be worthy of her interest. Plutarch, in his biography of Marc Antony, remarks that Cleopatra met Antony "at the very time when women have the most brilliant beauty. Notwithstanding, what are YOU comfortable with?
And the line about not able to attract a younger woman.. You fall in love with whom you fall in love with. When I was 34 I was dating a 27 year old. We had a lot of fun in the time we were together. Our work was similar, we liked the same movies, the same books, we had the same political views, our musical tastes overlapped.
Eventually he was transferred to another city and that was that, but we had a terrific time. No one, including the two of us, gave any thought to the age difference, because it was never evident.
I am eight years older than my husband, and our respective ages have never been an issue between us. Except when he makes fun of 80s music.
People have already given your grief for describing yourself as a 26 year old boy and caring about the opinion of an anonymous bunch of dudes on OKCupid, so I'll spare you on that front. My question is regardless of your concerns, how is anyone even going to know you are dating a 31 year old unless you tell them?
Unless said women looks substantially older than 31 or you look substantially younger than 26, your age difference is unlikely to be identifiable by the general public that's making the rather generous assumption that anyone else is going to care.
I didn't marry any of them or anyone else for that matter but they -- well all but one -- were great relationships, the shortest of which lasted almost 2 years and the longest almost 8 years. I don't recall my age, or our age difference, being a factor. I primarily dated men younger than myself because those were the men that I happened to meet. I went to grad school at 31 and most of my classmates were years younger than I was.
When I got out and got my first internship, same deal. I had more in common with them then men my own age who were already well-established in their careers, etc. Most of the time we found out each others ages after we started dating and it just wasn't an issue for either of us.
I'm 29 and my girlfriend is There are lots of advantages to dating a grownup. I wouldn't trade her for a year-old for anything, especially when I remember what I was like at Also, did you read that OkCupid article, or just the comments?
Because the article, if I'm thinking of the same one you are, was about how awesome women in their 30s are, and how dumb it is that guys don't tend to date older women. And they had data to back up something women being awesome! Honey, five years is an age gap when you are a child. Five years doesn't rate as an age gap when you are an adult.
I skipped to the end. This must worry you for some reason, but it shouldn't. I remember a ton of lady-persons who were 31 at my 26 and I didn't give a rat's patoot about our respective ages. Be glad you've found someone you care about and who feels the same. I'm a 30 year old woman. I'd have no problem dating a 25 year old. As the bard said, love the one you're with. If she's OK with you, you should be too. When I was in my early 30's, I had a short relationship with a woman in her early 20's.
We weren't a good match and one of the things that stuck out to me was the difference in maturity. If you're thoughtful and mature and your are compatible, great, have a good time. You haven't even asked her out. Cart before the horse. I hope you've worked through your previous issues. I think you need a lot more confidence and grounding, but that's just me. I'm 16 years older than my husband, we have been together for 7 years both dating and married.
I'm not a MILF or a Cougar and spent most of the early years of the relationship worrying about the age difference, it has never bothered him. You like who you like, ask her out and if she says yes I hope you both have fun. If it becomes serious you won't care about the age difference, and if it's only a bit of fun for both of you, you might learn something about yourself and women.
Forget about what people on OKCupid say, what people say online to make themselves look "cooler" rarely has any actually relationship to what they'd do if they had the chance in real life.
Also face early thirties deosn't look that much different to late 20's its not like she's got grey hair and a walking stick, no one is going to look twice. Are you sure that they've failed at competing? I suspect that men who date older women have realized that the only way to win at "my girlfriend is younger than yours" is not to play.
Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women? Would it really make you feel better about yourself? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women.
If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved. Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now. This is only an issue if it's made into an issue. Live your life, man. I was 27, he was A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was It didn't last, but he's still one of my favorite people in the world.
We still root for each other. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out. But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it.
That age gap itself is fine. But the fact that it concerns you and you have to ask this question says to me, pretty strongly, that you personally shouldn't date this woman.
My oldest brother is 12 years younger than his wife.
Like Julian, many old women are defying society stereotypes and are . Young men are fun and adventurous; there is always something new. I feel like it's about time society recognized why younger men are so attracted to us When I dated the year-old, most people didn't look twice because the While there can be many obstacles to the older woman/younger man And while you'd have to confirm this with my college boyfriend, I'm pretty. 'There is such a joy to being able to do whatever you want' If a younger man claims to prefer older women he is: a) still living with his parents.