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Lurk, speak, cam up or just type Also,thanks to ngbmameman you can visit irc. Slack public chat Discord Introvert chat. How many of you introverts just work, sleep, eat, repeat? How do you feel about it? I have been like this since I started working about a year ago..
Almost every day is the same, I come home from work, maybe eat something if I'm hungry, then just browse the net until late at night and then sleep and do the same thing next day. On the weekends, I rarely go out and I'm just content staying in.
Some days I feel like I'm wasting so much time doing this but being the introverted guy that I am I still find a way to stay indoors. Do you stay in all the time? Do you ever feel like you're missing out? If you do decide to go out where is the best place to go for an introvert? Do people bug you about staying in all the time?
I hate it because I can't shake the dreadful feeling that I'm slowly wasting my life. I would love to go out and do more things but it's hard when you don't anyone to enjoy it with. Just because you stay indoors doesn't mean you have to waste your time browsing the frontpage. I write novels well, am writing A novel , watch interesting TV series, listen to musicin soundcloud, and once in a while I play videogames.
I try to make it a goal to have fun every day. If I'm too tired, I go to bed esrly so I can have fun the next day. You're experiencing grass-is-greener syndrome. The feeling of missing out on something is always a deception. If you are an introvert you're missing out on social situations like birds miss out on swimming. It's just not for you, and if you try to do it because gee the fish look like they're having fun, you're not going to find the grass so green once you are there.
The problem isn't that you're introverted and long for extroverted pursuits, the problem is you're introverted but lack any absorbing introverted pursuits. Take up writing, programming, etc. Some kind of productive hobby that will give you something to get excited about going home and doing. Try working from home Some days I never leave the house! My girlfriend is extremely extroverted. So is one of my closest friends. If they weren't, I wouldn't go out.
I'd probably go out with someone once every month or so, and it'd probably just be my mum we go out for lunch after I finish work on Saturday occasionally. Routine sucks for many of us. The same thing day in day out kills any life of the mind unless you can do your job and listen to audiobooks or something like mine. I've been traveling more this year, i take day trips on the weekends to local breweries or wineries, anything to get away from a screen and break the monotony of working life.
I also don't stay in the same job for more than 1 to 2 years. This is an accurate description of my life. On weekends, I just stay inside all day and never leave until Monday morning arrives, wherein, I repeat the process of work, eat, and sleep.
One the one hand, it's nice to just sit and browse the internet and play some video games and pretty much do nothing. But then years from now will I feel like I've wasted my life doing nothing? I agree with this! There are tons of fun hobbies that you can do without social interaction from others and while staying in your own home.
I've picked up so many hobbies that I now have too many hobbies! Sometimes I feel guilty that I'd much rather spend time alone with my hobbies than by being social but that's just who I am. Tinder man, other than seeing friends occassionally the only reason I leave the house is for women, but meeting them at bars is such a drag.
I think it feels like that for me when I over simplify my life. It's a mindset that is brought on. When in reality I do much more. I took up dancing. Still going strong after 2 years. Made a bunch of friends who I can see most weeks. Lots of opportunities for classes most weeknights. I also bought a Groupon for a rock gym where I go climbing. Don't go here so often but definitely still fun.
Point is, yes, this is also my life right now, amongst other lovely and interesting things. I'm always tired, people are terrible, if you see that someone has torn up a gift shop; that's probably me If i'm not camping in the beautiful isolated outdoors, then i'm usually inside and on my own.
Physical human-to-human socializing for me is just too taxing when it comes to my energy, ain't nobody got time for dat'. Well if I'm leaving the house its to play sports or go lift.
Otherwise I'm just hanging out with. My wife or playing Xbox. When I am working locally, I tend to hang out with my favorite group of people that may expect me to put in effort and stimulate me mentally. For me, right now, that is my family. They ask such good questions, they won't hesitate to tell me I'm being an ass, and they love me even when I am. Main idea I think is that you show love where applicable, do your thing and let the chips fall where they may.
It can also be our greatest weakness, Circle jerk may be satisfying, but it's a very dangerous path. Pretty much my life. I have very few friends, and the ones I do have I seldom see. Besides the occasional concert or motorcycle ride, I have absolutely no life. I feel like this a lot. I'm a recent college grad and I'm finding it hard to adapt to working 8 hours every day, and then having so little time to do what I want in the evening.
The weekends are way too short. I used to be an avid gamer but I have so little time to put towards it anymore, and that's really my "me time". I usually end up spending all of my weekend playing something because I have no time during the week to, and then feel like I did nothing useful with my two days off. That shit will mess you up. I started having dreams of working in my sleep. I do it everyday. It sucks more because I work 3rd shift. Hardly ever do anything.
I mostly sleep my weekends away cause I'm so exhausted and try to keep my sleep schedule in tact. My depression has gotten pretty bad. While I do enjoy my alone time, I don't like being lonely. Plus it's boring sometimes. I work at Wal-Mart as a second shift hourly Support Manager, so that statement fits my lifestyle to a "T". After I get home from work and before work, I don't like to do a whole lot unless I have to. I prefer to well, like you said, sleep and eat. I do 4, 11 hour days so I don't have a lot of time in between to do activities.
On my 3 days off, i'm usually resting, or doing something with just my wife. Either we see a movie together, go out to eat together, or stay inside and watch Netflix, Hockey and Baseball. We don't do a whole lot of interactions with others aside from attending Church on Sundays and doing things with both sides of our family. Me, and my wife as well, are perfectly content with this. While we do have a select group of friends mainly her friends that she grew up with that we see occasionally, being around others and going out isn't really our thing.
We also don't really drink or go to parties, so we really don't feel the need to go downtown or hit up the local bars. Honestly, everyone fucking says this. As an introvert myself I find myself in the same situation as OP and think that OP addressed it in a normal way and not in a socially anxious way.
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They are gifts that let us know it's time to identify the stressful thoughts and do The Work. Until you can see the enemy as a friend, your Work is not done. This doesn't mean that you have to invite your enemy to dinner. Friendship is an internal experience. You may never see the person again, you may even divorce him or her, but as you think about the person, are you feeling stress or peace?
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Take up running instead of shelling out for gym membership. This is the most important thing. Take ownership of what you do by believing in it. Figure out a way to incorporate what you really care about into your professional life. Just get the ball rolling.
The Work is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, and to address the cause of your problems with clarity. In its most basic form, The Work consists of four questions and the turnarounds. May 26, · All you can do to help your supervisor correct the problem is sound the alarm. You can also set a boundary with Laura when she . When they do produce work, to put it mildly, it embarrasses you. It requires so much effort to eek out any productivity from the slacker that often people around them give up trying and pull the extra weight themselves.