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And with good reason. One time a month, for several months in a row, can be just enough to create an almost time-lapsed photography of loss…where it seems the the changes are occurring both quickly and slowly at the same time.

What could we have to offer? And for the first time in both of our careers we had to admit, we had nothing. Can you bring a person into a conference room for a few hours and make it all better for when they go home to that empty house?

Well, obviously doing a chore was about the last thing I had in mind to cure my boredom. And in this same vein I think the attempts that people make to cure the loneliness they feel after loss can be just as ineffective. So with that in mind, here are some ideas of what NOT to do if you are struggling with loneliness following a loss:.

While a wonderful feeling in marriage, this creates a terrible void in loss. It will never ever fit, no matter how hard you try. A relationship following loss can be a very healthy and positive step, as long as one recognizes that a new person can never replace or stand in for someone who is gone. Nor should this new person feel the responsibility to. Know that you are different now that this loss has occurred. The person you attract, the person who will be the best fit for you at this stage in your life may be nothing like the person you lost.

Because I have also encountered the son who was working 16 hour days just to avoid having to think about his mom or to go back to the empty home where he had cared for her. Like everything, moderation is the key. Busy can be good. It can mean getting up and out and dressed. It can mean exercise and fresh air. It can mean a dose of healthy distraction. It can be a way to pass the time, which sometimes we all need. Just as long as it includes time for rest, time for reflection, and time to actually learn what it feels like to be home alone, and how to create a new routine and activity once there.

This speaks to the loneliness I mentioned before. The yearning for the future that never happened. The attention we give to the empty spot where our loved one should be sitting. The people who are also lonely. Maybe because of loss, but more often their loneliness comes from behavior that has extricated them from healthy relationships. People who drink too much, or help too little, who are negative or bitter, who seem only to want to bring others down with them.

Bottom line, being alone is better than being with the wrong people. Even in our lowest, darkest and loneliest of times we have choices. It may not even be the first few years. But eventually if you find that grief becomes the cement shoes that keep you from moving forward, it may be time to try and break free.

Think of something that will have a positive impact not only for you but for your community as well. Being motivated by the feeling of giving back can be what gets some grievers moving again after loss. Find a cause that you are interested in. Know that like-minded people will be found here and helping those less fortunate can be the best way to get out of our own head.

More than anything know this: In some way or another we are all searching for those who will understand us, who can help fill some of the void and emptiness we feel. But the true work of grief comes in filling that lonely space from the inside out. Because these are the people who may be ready to make the connections and to find the right people to spend time with. I also lost a number of the boys n men I loved growing up to death… 5 Who were really close to me and I hurt to know I will never see their loving smile on this earth again… and another 6 or 7 aqaintences along with 2nd Dads… I Find Loss Can Trigger these Intense Emotions dug down like Grand Canyon in my psych..

Oh yes and less than one year ago a married ranches drove his truck off a cliff after pledging his Forever Love for me?????. I have spent today in tears and wishing my hubby was here.. I feel much better having read this site…I have no family where I live.. I work full time and have many work colleagues…outside of work weekends are my lonely days..

I am blessed to have my two best four legged friends……. My heart goes out to you. Loneliness is so profound after a loss.

My Mom passed away in January and my daughter just moved across the country. I am thinking of you and sending hugs. I lost my husband 5 months ago. I watched him suffer so much the lady year. I was his caregiver for 3. I do attend a grievance class once a week. I pray that that the Lord will take me I see no reason for living. I am trusting the Lord for help but still very lonely. I took care of my husband for 15 years. It has been a year since he has passed.

I miss him so much!! You are so right. I feel your pain. I lost my husband 8 days ago to cancer. We were married 28years. We have grown kids. They have their own lives. Tracy, I am so sorry for your loss. Please find support with friends, family, in your community and with us online. June,I feel your pain,for I feel the same. I feel so lost and empty. I even lost my job over not being there enough.

I just wish my life was over. I try going to church,but find the memories of us there to painful. I was ripped in half. He was just days from getting out of the Icu. He developed pneumonia that was too hard to beat. The most amazing father and husband…How can i ever begin to deal with that! My kind and gentle husband died in my arms only seventeen days ago. I have no wish to leave the house, to answer the phone or to speak to people.

I am empty inside and just wish I could have taken my last breath at the same time he did. I hate this life I am forced to lead now and miss him every minute of each day from waking to bed time. I There is a world full of people and you are needed to help others in some way you may not understand. We all make a difference. My sweet and gentle 58 yr. It was almost 8 months ago, but it feels like yesterday. No time passing seems to matter. I have to push myself to go to work and try for our son and daughter.

Your comments were well said in expressing how this feels. I pray all the time and I know God is with me. Pam, I will pray for peace in your heart and strength to continue. Everything was great on friday 22 was my daughters 16 Birthday and my husband rented a party bus.

We had so much fun. The week went forward and got back to back to work my daughter in school everything eas normal. Thursday we woke up got ready to work he talk to me on the cell but was so busy wr kept Calling each other.

That night he gone home at I went to sleep at 3am i hhear him i woke up and ask if he was ok. He yes he was jujust hot i got him water and he fainted i screamed My daughter called the rest was a blur We told him to open his eyes we said we him. I miss him so…. Much its been a year and i find it harder then the first year and the first Was a nightmare.

No one understands my loneliness 38 year we were married.

Coping with the Pain of Loneliness After a Breakup

I feel so broken and confident that I am not good enough for anything or anybody. So sorry to hear that. I just wanted to say that you are good enough as you are even if everything feels like shit right now.

It will get better. My worry is how old is too old to meet someone else after a break up. I live in a village that has lots of single older women, which break up will be my last? It destroyed me when it initially happened. I feel it worse at night. All of the things in your article have helped me over the past year. It still breaks my heart to think about him and what we had so I try to avoid those thoughts.

So sorry to hear that Maria, it sounds really tough. I know you will eventually find someone else because you sound like a lovely human being with lots of love to give. I just went through a breakup with someone that I was with for 2 and a half years.

I know that I still love him as a person, but I realized that this direction with him was not the right one because everything was manufactured, and I had a hard time being myself.

I had such a hard time with the breakup on my side as well, and I have had a lot of self-doubt, but I cannot stress enough that the gut is always right. I am on a strenuous road of figuring out who I am, and what I want. I know it is hard out there because I feel weird doing things on my own already. I am thinking of all the people that are on the same boat as me, and I am trying my hardest to figure out who I am. Wishing everyone that is in the same boat my best wishes!

The period after a breakup can seem quite lonely, although see it as a blank slate, a new start. What do I like, what do I want to do. To really sit in the discomfort of not knowing what to do, what makes me happy, what is my passion. So here I sit, waiting for answers. I have no answers except that any emotional relationship now would be repeating unhealthy patterns that have continued to plague me.

So I take it one day at a time until some answers come. I must resist contacting old girlfriends or even playing the FB game of back and forth, only really looking for attention from someone else. The price is too high! So I keep striving every day to enjoy my life, without having a relationship to comfort me. Evan Sounds like you know yourself pretty well and the words you speak ring loud and clear as a viable path I should take with my recent divorce and rebound relationship of 6 years that was so one-sided and unhealthy.

It sounds that you and I both have been thru similar experiences. Although I do miss her company, I have to somehow let go. She has met someone else now and that has only increased my heartache and longing for her. Steve I feel for you becoz I know that feeling all too well of being shut out of a relationship unexpectedly without reason. The measure of pain from this can be unbearable.

As humans we naturally strive for answers so we can better ourselves and I think it should be an unspoken law that as humans , especially those of us experiencing a loving relationship, we should have the respect and descentcy to give us closure or something in the way of a farewell then to just pack up and leave without warning , do u agree? GL Steve and thanks so much for sharing.

This is great advice, thanks so much for sharing. So many people struggle after a break up. I think that is the key. I had started an import business and turned it into a multi-million dollar company. I still had a hard time enjoying socializing and being authentic.

I still felt awkward and off in conversations. Then I walked home. Here are some tips to help you connect with others and learn to heal after a heartbreak: Why breakups hurt If we want to understand why loneliness seems to loom over our heads after a breakup, we need to look at what love and heartbreak do to the body to figure it out. When experiencing TC, your heart will act as if it was having a heart attack without any of the long-term physical damage to the heart.

Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Comment Name Email optional Website optional Notify me of follow-up comments by email. You have my best wishes too! Thank you for your wonderful inspiration and the truth of how it feels. And good luck to you also Evan! Connect with yourself, not a very rich environment. Latest comments Nick October 27, at 6: Anonymous October 27, at 2: Anonymous October 27, at 9: Linda October 26, at 7: Araka Okolie-aboh October 26, at 2: Instantly more at ease in conversations.

A few years ago, I looked successful on the surface. I used to over-analyze and get stuck in my head. That night, I made a realization that Viktor studied psychology both personally and professionally since Viktor has been working with SocialPro since It was new and exciting. The future looked promising. And to be fair, it did work, on and off, for a respectable number of years.

However, fast forward past the cluster of good times and the occasional happy holiday, and I found myself having to face up to the heartbreak of a damaged relationship. In particular, the daunting prospect of sharing my future with another human being who, in essence, I just did not feel a connection with anymore. I could choose to spend my days feeling alone, on the surface still part of the relationship, but deep down feeling emotionally detached and distanced from him.

I could patiently wait for the days where I felt an element of hope—the momentary optimism that everything would turn work out okay for us in the end. I could even reason with myself that this is only a rough patch in our relationship, just a little blip in the overall bigger picture. Or I could face up to the truth and accept the glaringly obvious: For months my thoughts were in constant battle. The laborious task of trying to make things work seemed like it was set up to be life-long endeavor.

Neither of us had the enthusiasm anymore. It seemed we had simply lost the passion. In the end, we knew what was coming. It was time to call it a day, move on, and go our separate ways. During the time after my breakup, I experienced deep feelings of unshakable loneliness.

And I still suffer with these feelings from time to time. However, I have learned that masking those uncomfortable feelings my escapism being alcohol and meaningless dates only leaves the pain unattended for a while longer. I started to understand that I needed to accept my loneliness as a true emotion. It would not just softly fade away, no matter how hard I tried to numb my feelings or look for distractions. As you experience your emotions, you start to feel lighter. Give them the time and space they need to be fully expressed.

Write down your thoughts. Talk about them with someone. Acknowledge that they do exist and that what you are feeling is very real to you.

Trust that the pain does eventually lose its intensity, making room for you to experience a sense of calmness and clarity amidst the difficulties. I have indulged in my fair share of self-help books over the years, ranging from detailed accounts on depression , self-esteem issues, and more recently, tips and tricks on beating loneliness.

These stories may offer a few moments of fleeting comfort as you flick through the pages. But they are not able to take the sting out of the raw emotions that you experience first-hand, such as during those times when you are sitting alone, feeling fed up and isolated from the world around you.

Therefore, I have learned to take only the advice that works best for my own mind, body, and spirit, and leave the rest for someone else. Sometimes you just need to give yourself a break , making space during those times when you need to rest and restore.

Go at your own pace. Understand that you are your own best teacher. And only you will know when it feels right to take the brave step out of your comfort zone into the unknown. In fact, it was a relief. There was no need to force myself to search in all the wrong places for the solution anymore. I am certainly not the only single person in the world.

Why did I feel that I needed to fix this aspect of my life so soon? Try and enjoy the freedom that comes from being detached. Appreciate the opportunity to gain introspection on yourself. You may even discover new interests or familiarize yourself with old forgotten hobbies now that your life has shifted focus. Accepting that there is nothing wrong with how I am feeling gave me the grace to relax.

The Beatles' break-up was a cumulative process during the final years of their career, marked by rumours of a split and by ambiguous comments by the members themselves regarding their future as a September , John Lennon privately informed his bandmates that he was leaving the band, but there was no public acknowledgement of the break-up . No matter who did the breaking up, no matter how short or long the relationship lasted, no matter what the reason, ending a relationship can sting. Depending on how long you'd been together and the seriousness of the relationship, making the decision to break up with someone prompts a ton of feels. And in some cases, you may ultimately.